I will pick on Facebook since it is the most recognizable along with Tweeter of all of the social media. The social media gives all the bullies amongst us a platform to make up lies and to spread it across the internet. When a bully has the ability to make up lies and to bully without revealing who they are or their real name then they have unlimited access to stoop to any and all levels of disgusting behavior.
One reason that bullies do get by with being a bully is because they can hide behind others and usually function in a group, since they are all cowards, at heart. The internet gives them the ability to act alone by changing their identity so they can sink to a new level of slime. Many times a bully will ingratiate their self to the victim and in doing so they are placed on their Facebook friends page where they have access to the e-mail or the e-mail itself is given out by others if the victim is leery of the bully. Some children being bullied are the gentle amongst us, that are seeking or looking for a friend, so they are almost always vulnerable or receptive to the kindness offered by this type of bully.
It use to be, the bullies were primarily at school and our personal life was never infringed on by them after school hours. Sure they showed up with their bullies in hand between school property and home or on the buses or in the parking lots but once out of the sight of the bully, our free time was unencumbered, by them.
With the invent of the computer and the social networking there is no way to get away from them, short of parental supervision or denying the use of all technology. Many kids never let their parents know they are being bullied as it only adds to the shame the child already feels. A bully, is in most cases, readily recognizable by the bunch that they hang out with, even though a great deal of them also function on charm. For an adult to deny, they do not know who the bully is both at school and at home, is many times, ludicrous.
By the time our children reach highschool age, it does become naive of anyone to think that a parent does have the ability to supervise all movement of their teenagers, but on the other hand, it does not mean that teenagers should be left carte blanc without supervision either.
Since the majority of suicides are happening in the grade school or junior high levels of education we need to place special emphasis or study into these years of education. With most victimizations, there usually are a set of symptoms of behavior or withdrawal that precedes it, with both the victims and the bullies. Both parents and schools need to know and understand more clearly what they should be looking for. Teachers who are supervising the areas, need to be given the ability to deal with it when it happens. We need to get over the attitude that,”words cannot hurt us” because in many ways verbal abuse is much harder to recognize as well as deal with than physical abuse, since we can all see physical abuse happening whereas verbal abuse can be and is often times more subtle.
Then our communities must determine if bullies or in some cases,their parents, will be treated like all other assault or hate crime criminals are treated. We can not say we want something done about it and then scream about government or authorities infringing on our lives. In some cases it may include giving authorities both the right to enter our homes as well as to remove the computer from the same.
Unless adults are ready to act against bullies, then we remain where we have been for years and that is with adults being the bullies, that not only spread but also condone hate and everything continues getting worse, while our children continue committing suicide. If that sounds callous, then isn’t it time that we adults do something to change the reality of it, ourselves, by setting and showing example? Clearly this redneck attitude of,” just hit back”, has solved nothing over the years and we can no longer claim ignorance or innocence when bullies can and do kill, regardless of the way they use to bully or who condones the behavior.