One of the main reasons we are seeing so many disgruntled and displaced people joining up in the conglomerations of Hate groups, John Birch and Tea Party like groups, combined with the religious-right is because we have a whole group of kids who were never forced into getting out of bed or taught goals or application of work standards.
The other problem being,as the behavior problems started, more and more children were sent to what is known as Jesus camps. The camps had a two fold mission, stress the importance of loving Jesus and indoctrinate them in serving the Lord much in the same way Al-Qaida indoctrinates their followers. They are suppose to come out of these camps as Soldiers willing to fight for the Lord.
I don’t know for sure when it started but I know by the 1980′s class room time was taken up in many public schools with disruptive kids to the point that school time was turned into basically assignment time. Instead of teachers being able to teach, class room time got shorten while extra curricular increased. This meant that instead of having time allotted for student-teacher time much of what was learned was done by home work being sent home for the students to be taught by parents or if parents were absent to help it either did not get done or students taught themselves.
When the time shortened in the class rooms meant that time had to be shared by the behavior problems who were disruptive then the teacher student time lessened even further. Add to that the attempt to correct the increasing problems later with the no child left behind program and we ended up with a whole generation of children who either taught themselves, were tutored by those who could afford tutoring, or by parents out of work, or they went through 9 years of school only to drop out in frustration or due to hardship and necessity due to a lack of parents working.
Although the idea and concept of no child left behind had the right idea and intention it would prove to be a dismal failure because the discrepancy in family incomes were also widening. We started seeing children skipping schools in increased numbers, shop lifting increased, street gangs increased with girls gangs and children joining at younger ages since they would not be held as adults as the older gang member would be, and more and more children roamed malls.
While this is all taking place with our children, parents are being over-whelmed with increased work hours because pay is beginning to go down. Parents are having to add on another job or work holiday time because they get time and a half and the families need every extra dollar they can get.
Where a high school diploma previously meant these same parents use to be able to make a good living and maintain a home those jobs were becoming fewer and fewer between as they were being replaced by automation and technology, so instead of the man of the house being able to earn a good living, although he was seldom ever seen at home; while the wife stayed home or worked part time for minimum wage to pay for little extras, a high school education now meant both parents worked minimum wage and picked up any hours they could get and while their application increased to their jobs, many of their children were being spoiled as they had been when their parents had more.
As the stresses in the work force and the homes increased so did divorces increase leaving parents fighting over custody of the children who were/are often used as pawns between the parents. With children being used as pawns between warring parents eventually the parent who had visitation rights failed to show up or keep promises made to the children.
Since women statistically had custody the fathers dropped out of the lives of their children and single parent homes began to increase with absentee dads. In cases of dads getting custody moms failed to show up to see their children. Many men quit working out of spite against paying child support and what was once a middle class family was thrown into poverty with women needing to work more jobs and children becoming latch-key children, who raised themselves, unless moms remarried.
Single parent homes also increased in the poorer neighborhoods with baby daddies who were very rarely a part of the family structure in single parent homes, and it led to increased gang activities in children where increased street violence became everyday happenstance. Drug exposure increased throwing parents into jails over treatment and children being shifted to different family members or foster homes, in both the poor and middle class homes. It has now become a three generational problem going well into the fourth generation in many families.
On the other end of the spectrum as education increased parents hours increased with it. Because these educated adults knew and understood competition for fewer jobs were increasing they began over-whelming their children with the need for and importance in sports, and other extra-curricular activities if they were going to get into the best colleges.
All this driving but lack of conversation while the children caught up with home work on the way to activities saw one of the parents running continuously in transporting of children in pushing them to be their best to the point of exhaustion on the part of the child as well as the parent.
They lived in the car and came home exhausted while disappearing to their rooms. The sad thing is while these children were being coached they were never able to think for themselves but instead, just like when they were attending Jesus Camps, they were being told what to do and how to think. So ultimately despite the wide discrepancy in education and incomes in children of these generations both suffered from the insecurity brought on by absent parenting and exposure to the alcohol and drug cultures.
Long story short we end up with a whole generation of kids who got a better education than their parents had and on the opposite end a generation of dropouts and neither were ever taught application, ambition, nor did either have much parental input into their years when it was necessary for them to transcend from child to adulthood and the responsibilities that goes along with each of these growth stages.
If they were not being neglected to grow up on their own or taught by gangs then they were being neglected through being trained by coaches or by strict disciplinarians in Jesus camps who were to be ran as al-Qaida groups in the rural areas or by nannies in the upwardly mobile neighborhoods. The idea that sports build character from the past was fading fast as more and more pressure was placed on coaches to win or leave by the alumni children felt the pressure placed on them.
There hasn’t ever been a generation that did not deal with the lack of competition they got from the indifferent or lazy on the work force. Every generation has dealt with both the under and over educated but this is the first decade they aren’t even trying to show up for work. What else are they going to do when they get out of college or drop out of high school and can’t even get minimum wage? They come home and mooch off of Dad and Mom,of course, or if they drop out of high school they marry young in order to feel loved and hit the Streets as drug runners, prostitutes, or anything that will give them whatever everyone else has.
The number one thing that none of them want to do, regardless of their back grounds is to bust their backs like their parents did on one specter of background while another has no choice but to remain unemployed since they dropped out and in no way are they going to work a two-bit job has often covered for the fact that they cannot even find a job, so we end up with grown men not working,
As they feed each other with the idea they are told they become more convinced they are victims and being discriminated against and that all jobs are going to minorities and women, even though the majority of them have no interests beyond video games and partying. They are ripe for the picking as being picked off by militia and hate groups where with a gun in their hands they feel like somebody.
Whether these kids were from the poor neighborhoods or the upper class neighborhoods they both had absentee parents, because when parents were there it was all about competition and being your best and join, join, join, but when they went home exhausted they faced the same absentee parents because no one sit down at the table any longer and shared their ups and downs of the day. Application, ambition, and goal setting never got taught to these generations.
When parents did not have jobs they hung out with their kids and let them drink a beer or smoke a joint and was their friend instead of their parent. When parents who earned good incomes had time it was spent as friends to their kids because they felt guilty they had spent so little time with them so money had no boundaries.
They threw the biggest and best parties while their kids friends entertained them with even bigger parties. In the poorer neighborhoods where mom and dad both dropped out,alcohol and drugs lessened their sense of feeling like failures, while on the other hand both worked so many hours for less pay they did not have family time, or sometimes both were in and out of prison due to the use of drugs.
In both neighborhoods the one thing that did and could draw them together, providing there was time, were the Churches and when Dad could not go then the kids and mom went. Sunday and Wednesday were Bible reading time and summers Bible or Jesus camps. In many cases it was the only time in the lives of both walks of life that these children felt the genuine comradeship of shared interests off of the sports or the academic fields or being left alone to entertain and teach themselves. Religion and Faith in God has always been the nectar and in many cases the only luxury of the poor.
Without the ability to work in some due to the lack of education, the lack of desire or interests in others to work when they have an education but were never told no, the entire lack of teaching by parents and not by a coach or friend or camp councilor in
earlier application and ambition, we have idle men who are finding a lot of free time to play but not to work.
Women have pretty much grown up the care takers in the family so in many ways they like minorities who are generations behind white males, when it comes to being denied the ability to succeed
have faired much better because they are better educated, more driven, better organized, less dependent on others to fulfill their needs, and accustomed to working harder for less.
Many parents during this time were parents and taught their children an even balance of responsibility to care for their own needs while giving them a balance of guidance, application, education and teaching the necessity to earn ambition and to set goals through providing for themselves. Their exposure to religion was one of giving their children choices instead of enforced indoctrination In short they were parents who behaved as parents whether they divorced or remained married. But because their kids were exposed to the dysfunctional homes their job as parents had increased pressures not felt by other parents in the past and those pressures continue, today.
Unless we learn importance of being educated and taught ambition and application through practicality and self expression,with hands on work experience and attention from both parents and business input, and beginning early teaching our sons something other than sports the trend will continue with boys not growing into men and taking on responsibility but instead feeling like victims.
With parents refusal to be parents but instead friends to their children and their lack of acknowledgement when it comes to application and teaching the importance of self-respect through their own example, of both establishing goals and ambition or work is not punishment but the thrill of rising to a challenge, we are going to see more and more hate groups and self-righteous organization brainwashing and manipulating those who cover their own sense of failure by joining hate groups and being driven by religious fanatics.
Not only are these politicians already into our government this same mentality is growing daily in our own families where parents being parents and teaching their children the importance of education, ambition, and application has been on a decline in favor of parents being friends and doing everything themselves to compensate for their own guilt; or the opposite of that is
parents who are not educated having to work sometimes 3 jobs just to feed their families because minimum wage has not increased since 1989 and cannot sustain a families needs.
As a society of people we need to do better by getting rid of the Grover Norquist Conservatives and Tea party who are forced to sign either the tea party or Grover’s “No More Taxes” pledge and with schools, parents, and businesses working together again to strengthen the middle class and needs of families again by training our people for better paying jobs, teaching our kids early with skills they can apply to real life, and by increased receipts paid back into our government treasuries.
We just learned what happens when government is shut down by these groups and how important government is to our economy. Our kids and grand kids need to know, as a Nation, we support them so they will not be left with a debt that is unattainable for them to pay, while government fails, due to lack of funding. They will need to be able to provide for their children, while government continues to feed the hungry, and provide health care and housing for the elderly who have paid into the Social Security trust funds, as we did.
Our children and grandchildren need a government, that is funded, and is able to provide protection, against the radicals and extremists groups denying future generations the Democracy we have enjoyed. With out taxes or receipts, because of the ever increasing debt in government, too many will adapt to the mentality of the radicals and extremists views to eliminate a strong government and a Democracy, over that of a dictatorship.
We need to take ownership of our own failures instead of doing nothing by passing blame, in order to begin to find solutions for those failures, if we are to succeed, as a Nation. It all begins in our homes, schools, and communities and with follow up at the election polls. Texas is already trying to eliminate women and minorities with voter ID requirements although they have only had 1 reported fraud case in their recent history, so be aware, that this bunch of Republicans are offering just more of the same.